Anger is one of the strongest human emotions. It is also one of the deadliest. Juxtaposed with all other emotions, anger is one that, if continued, almost never produces any good. As humans, we are independent of one another; hence, we are in control of what we feel but not how people make us feel. Inanimate objects, past events, family members, or colleagues should not be given the power to control us at any point in time.
Psychologically, anger can drag one to depression. Mentally, it leaves you in a state of disarray and health wise it causes a number of really risky illnesses. Not forgetting the danger that follows from irrational behaviours borne out of anger issues like assault and other violent acts. It could cause you to take actions you would live to regret. Rather than hold grudges or throw darts of anger, there are so many safer ways to communicate your displeasure.
Where Anger has become a habit it is important to seek out ways to put an end to it before it costs you your friends, loved ones, or even your life. Here are a few dangers of having anger issues both in terms of your health and in terms of your association with people.
Health Dangers of Anger issues
First, with Anger comes a risk of High blood pressure. High Blood pressure, which is also known as Hypertension, occurs when the pressure or force of blood that pushes against the walls of the arteries is too high. The normal range of blood pressure is a systolic pressure below 120 mmHg and a diastolic pressure below 80 mmHg; that is, 120/80mmHg. Anything above this is high and anything below this is low- especially for adults.
When you are angry, your heart rate speeds up. Not in the good way like when you exercise, but the burst of energy from anger causes your blood vessels to tighten and your blood pressure soars. So if you are already hypertensive, anger is something you should completely steer clear of. Dangers range from further aggravating the issue or running the risk of instant death. It is that serious.
Next, anger issues can place you on the risk of having an heart attack or more. Heart attacks happens when the heart cannot get oxygen or there is a blocked blood flow at a given time. Sometimes, it results in the death of part of a heart muscle. This can also lead to death. It follows the same procedure for hypertension and for adults who already run the risk of heart attack, getting angry will not just shake your surroundings but can also take your entire life off your feet.
Having headache does not seem like such a big deal until it just does not stop. The types of headache that follows from being angry are tension headache and migraine. Tension headache usually occurs towards the neck and is not entirely terrible; however, migraines are recurrent and can be terrible. Migraines occur on one side of the head and can be followed by nausea and disturbed vision.
Anger induced headaches follow not directly from the act of being angry but from the actions that accompany the act of being angry. You know, throwing things angrily, clenching your teeth or fists and generally how much you internalize anger. Putting pressure on your muscles can actually give you headache! Unless you feel recurring headaches are not such big issues, then you really have to get your anger issues under control.
On the contrary, if you decide not to flare up but hold on to grudges and let your anger control your mood, you run a risk of depression. At this phase, you are stuck somewhere between being sad and being angry. Anxiety attacks, frustration and all the others related evils can get you generally depressed. The dangers of staying depressed cannot also be overemphasized. Suicide and substance abuse are some of the dangers that follow depression.
If you have been angry before, you would know that one act of anger can give you sleepless nights. Insomnia is another danger that comes with anger. Anger causes anxiety and stress; anxiety and stress cause you to stay up. Well, research has linked insomnia to high blood pressure, heart failure, diabetes, and many more. It is one constantly revolving roller coaster.
Finally, anger has been linked to the risks of stroke. Along with other forms of negative emotions, anger is a known cause for stroke. Research also has it that people who had strokes were more likely to have experienced anger or negative emotions in the two hours prior to the stroke than at the same time the day before the stroke. Also, sudden reactions to actions and activities can also cause stroke.
The dangers of having unchecked anger issues on your health still go beyond these. If you still do not see reason enough why anger should be controlled, below are ways anger affects your loved ones.
How Anger issues affect your friends and Family
A continued demonstration of anger towards your friends and family members, may cause them to retract from you. In essence, they stay away and sooner or later, you would realise that you are alone and without close friends.
Anger issues affect relationships as well and distorts communication. Nobody wants to be in a violent relationship but where people are stuck with them, there is a natural desire to avoid all actions that could possibly lead to it happening. Hence, no real communication may take place.
Worse off, anger may lead you to react in ways you do not generally want to. For example, anger may lead you to hitting your spouse or saying hurtful words that would forever be held against you. This is possible the worst way to lose a friend or relation. Usually, at the point of anger, people say things they do not mean.
Finally, anger and peace are parallel to each other. There is no such thing as peaceful anger- at least none I know of. Anger should be reduced to a minimum so peaceful coexistence can exist.
Anger can be managed through therapy, anger management classes, exercise and so on. By whatever means, ensure you work on anger issues so you can cohabit with people and ultimately live longer.